Friday, January 23, 2009


My cell-phone just rang and the caller ID said "G". I didn't answer. It was Mom, she actually left a voicemail.

She said Hi and that she just got home from the Hospital to G's house. She said that she had complications and didn't want to alarm me so she didn't let me know. (Last I knew she was getting released on Sat.) She also said, "I need that last check you have." Of course she does. I found one last Disability check of hers in her STACK of bills. I let her know last week when I talked to her. I wondered how long it would before she was asking for it.

Monday, January 19, 2009

A saw G today

Today A went back to school. She was making the 2 hour drive and noticed a Company Truck ahead. She laughed and thought "Wouldn't it be funny if that is G?" Mom was in a hospital on the way to A's college, but we thought she was being released Saturday.

Sure enough, it was G. He was either going to pick Mom up from the Barber's house (that is what happens when she is tired of the Barber) or possibly visiting the hospital. There really would be no other reason for him to have been on that highway.... I thought he was done this time.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

The Drama Never Ends.....

A had told me that she had 2 missed calls from the BarberShop. She figured it might be Mom and called back. It was the Barber. He wanted to let her know that Mom was with him in the Country (well by herself all week b/c he comes here to work), but he was checking on her each night. He also wanted her to know that Mom was doing well and that she was down to 1 bottle of wine a day. Right, whatever..... that is just what she tells him I am sure.

This morning I received a phone call from the Barber. He was calling to let me know that Mom had fallen down his stairs and cut open her head. She was in the hospital (again) and he gave me the phone number. He said she couldn't call long distance and really wanted to hear from me.

I stared at the phone number for awhile before I decided to call. She answered after several rings and said she had been sleeping. She had gotten out of bed to get another glass of wine b/c she couldn't sleep. Apparently the basement steps are right by the refridgerator and she just stumbled. Since the house is "under construction", there wasn't anything to grab onto like a railing, so down she went. She was out cold for a little while - she doesn't know how long b/c she was there by herself. She crawled to a neighbor and they called 911 for her. She has a minor concussion and staples in her head.

She said "I am so glad you called, I really miss you girls!". She told me what she had been up to for the past week - staying in the country at the Barber's house. She had her dog with her too. She said her and the Barber were going to give it another try (that might be like the 100th try!!)

We had a really great conversation. I was on the phone almost an hour! It was just like talking to "Mom" again. She listened and offered advice. She was concerned about my DH wrist/surgery. She asked about the boys. It was all genuine - she didn't want something from me this time. Unfortunately, I took it for just that - a nice talk with Mom. I know that nothing will change - I know not to get my hopes up.

I told A what had happened and that she might want to give Mom a call while we knew where she was and there was a phone# attached to her. I am pretty sure she didn't call. She is still VERY angry with Mom and the whole situation. I try not to be angry b/c it just upsets me. We shall see what happens next.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Divorce is Back On

Wonder how many times I will post that statement? (I really would like to see his lawyer's face each time he makes that call too)

Came home from a hair appointment this morning and saw a truck in my driveway. Oh Great, it's G. "Divorce is back on. I am calling the lawyer on Monday. She is gone with the Barber again." Then proceeds to rip on the Barber and tell me about Mom and her horrible doings. He repeated the car crash story. He also had carpal tunnel surgery last week and said he only got 2 of his pain pills before she got a hold of them. None of this surprises me.

She did that to me years ago, when I had my wisdom teeth removed. When I asked her "What do I do when it hurts?" She responded "We just call the dentist, tell him you are in major pain and we get more." And that is just what she did too. Back then, I didn't even know she had a problem - wow was I blind! Actually, I wasn't blind just naive - I was also away at college for 5 years and it was being kept from me.

G says "I am sorry to involve you in this. I just thought you and your sister would like her pictures so they don't get ruined. Your mother doesn't take care of them"

My ass he is sorry to involve me. That is just what he was trying to do. My life would not have ended if he didn't drive those two boxes of pictures over here. He just wanted to have the chance for a bitch fest. I edged my way towards the house and said "I have to take Z to Disney on Ice. Thanks for the pictures." He got the hint and left.

A and I had a great time going through the pictures. We even found her baby book, she didn't think she had. It was so wierd though. Almost like she was already gone and we were trying to preserve what we had left. Hmmm.....

Monday, January 5, 2009

She remembered

Today is my 31st Birthday. My Mom remembered and called me. I was at work, and just didn't feel like answering. She left a slurred voicemail. "Hi honey. I just wanted to call and tell you Happy Birthday. And wish you guys good luck. I hope you had a good Christmas. Love you"

Not sure what she meant by good luck, but she remembered to say "Happy Birthday".